Sometimes the most precious gift we can give someone is simply holding space. It is within that space that the way becomes more clear and the storm becomes easier to navigate.
Thoughts
How do you know when to let go?
“How do you know when to let go?” I was recently asked.
Good question. How DO you know when to let go? If only there was an easy answer to this…Sometimes this is not a question for your brain. Because you have probably asked yourself this question more than once. Maybe much more than once.
There are times when it is possible to “Ask you body not your brain.” What does your body tell you? When you ask your body the question, “is it time to let go”, what sensations are you noticing? Do you feel pain? Do you feel the physical symptoms of anxiety? Do you feel a weight? Do you just notice that your knee hurts? Yes, it might seem strange to ask your body. Especially if you have no idea how to connect your knee hurting to whether or not you are ready to let go of something or someone. But if you sit with that sensation long enough you give yourself the space to slow down. It’s in that space that answers become free to come. The less connected you are to your body, the harder it is to come to answers that you already know in your heart. So ask your body; get in touch with it. You might not hear the answer right away, but keep asking and be open to hearing the answer. And the truth is that you really do have the answer. Other people might give you good advice, or help you to facilitate the process, but at the end of the day you are the expert of you.
